Friday, May 18, 2012

To the Mother of My Child

I saw a link titled, "To My Daughter's Mother" which was a letter written to the biological mother of an adopted daughter.
It was a good post, but it was not what I expected to read when I read the title.
I thought a mother had written a letter to HERSELF.
I found myself longing for a slightly different post that still needed to be written.
So, I decided to give it a try...

To the Mother of My Child,

You are enough. Quit questioning that.
You can do this. You have what it takes.

 For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. - Ephesians 2:10

You have been equipped to parent this child. 
Yes, this PARTICULAR child - the one God hand-picked for you. 

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. -Psalms 139:13 

Every wrong or right decision you make can be used to mold that little bundle into a mature Christ-follower. God knows what you BOTH need in order for you to ultimately seek His face. 
When He placed that child in your arms, God knew:
  • You need each other to learn.
  • You need each other to grow.
  • You need each other to be properly challenged - to turn your eyes heavenward.
Don't sit in guilt and remorse if you have had moments of weakness.
God is bigger than your failures and can use them for your good, the good of your child - and His glory.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. - Romans 8:28


Use your struggles to model repentance. 
Use your mistakes to teach. 
Use EVERY opportunity to learn lessons as well as point your child to truth.

Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 
Deuteronomy 11:18-19 

Those smallish eyes are learning through watching you.
So, accept God's grace when you fail. Claim the love God has for you.
Model repentance when needed - and how to get back up once you've fallen down.
Be an example of perseverance, and PRAISE GOD for the growing pains as you mature in your faith.
Seek God's wisdom. Search God's word. Pray for His guidance.

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be matureand complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. - James 1:2-5

And quit worrying.
God knew what He was doing when he entrusted you with the dimples on that precious face. Grab hold of that truth.

Finally, I want to remind you that your child has choices to make as well. Unfortunately, you cannot choose the character of your child. You cannot control that independent heart.
If those little feet stray down a dark path, it doesn't mean you've failed.
It just means that God isn't done either of you. 
Keep praying.
It's an opportunity for you to learn even more about trusting God - with the most cherished parts of your life. It's an opportunity to grow in your faith. It's an opportunity for God to get glory.
You can do this.

Press On,

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  1. I will be returning to this post quite often! I love the scriptural references!!! Great post yet again!

  2. Excellent letter, especially the last section! I'm sure many mothers will identify with the moments of doubts and struggles.

  3. Wonderful letter and terrific scripture references. Thanks so much for linking this up today...I'm sure it will be an encouragement to many!!

  4. Wow, Thanks Becky! It's so hard to believe that sometimes (most of the time for me). I really need to pray more...maybe it would help to have a prayer partner- just thought of that!
    An online one would be good. Hmmmm. Does anyone have any experience in doing that?

  5. Loved, loved, loved this!!! Thank you!


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